this is Hubby and I’s wedding song.  Nothing Else Matters (S&M).

So, I get a phone call this morning from my grandparents.

“Happy Anniversary!”

?huh? “It’s my anniversary?”

“Isn’t today October 4th?”

…..”thanks for giving me the heads up” that’s a little embarrassing

I can’t help but love the fact that I have to be reminded about my own anniversary and occasionally birthdays, valentines day, so on and so forth. So now Hubby and I have officially been married for 8 years. Where does the time go? We’ve become such different people in the time since we got married. We’ve been through some incredibly hard times, probably more than most people who have only been together this long. If I met the old me I don’t know if I’d even recognize myself. I kinda miss those rose-colored glasses.

But what hasn’t changed is that we love each other, we support each other, and we take care of each other. The good thing about the struggles is that they brought us closer, we understand each other better, and we’re stronger.

When I told my grandparents what anniversary it was they were surprised, as many people are when they realize how much time has passed. But it wasn’t just how long it had been that surprised them.

“Oh really? We didn’t think you waited so long to have Monster”

“Ya…well, it took a while”.

It’s not fair of me to expect my family to remember every detail of our TTC (especially the generation that doesn’t talk about that sort of thing) since we didn’t talk about it until after we were pregnant. But I thought they’d at least recall that we had been seeing a fertility specialist. It took 3.5 years for me to get pregnant.

I guess I was just a little surprised that they said that since even if they don’t remember that we struggled pre-Monster, they know that we are struggling now. I guess it doesn’t go hand in hand. We could theoretically have waited those years before trying.

I supposed it’s really more the reminder that this is so difficult for us that struck me.